There’s a saying that goes, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” That old saying is starting to prove to be false as other people’s words are starting to get to public figures. Ciara is the latest public figure to express her frustration with negative words by bloggers and haters.
In fact, the “Super Turnt Up” singer penned an open letter to the mischievous bloggers who seem to only have bad things to say about her. In her letter called “What Is Social Media Turning To?,” Ciara reveals that she used to enjoy visiting blog sites to get the latest information on current events and to see cool photos. However, she noticed a trend of some blogs competing among each other to see who can throw the most shade and “who can tear someone down the most.” She also mentioned how the comment sections in the blogs are no better. It’s full of slander and hate. Though it has been tempting for her to snap back, Ciara believes it’s best to stay away from the blogs.
Also in the letter, Ciara poses two questions to the people who are trying to slander her: “What stops you from thinking twice about trying to defame someone? What are you trying to gain?”
It’s something to think about. Read Ciara’s open letter below:
I used to sometimes like visiting some of the blog sites to see what new things are happening in the world! Things like cool photos, current events, etc. But nowadays it seems like there’s a competition with sites on “Who Can Tear Someone Down the Most.” The stories are going from cool and creative to pure drama. Even the comment sections are beginning to get out of control and people are using the platforms to exercise a false sense of power.
People sure do have a lot of courage when they are anonymous. It’s like a “Who Can Say the Nastiest Comment Game.” I click onto some of the comments from something as fun as an Instagram post that you’re sharing with your fans, and a person finds a way to turn a positive post into a negative. I think to myself, “I could pick this person apart so bad but what for? Why act ugly like them?” It honestly takes the fun out of it when people seem so miserable.
Or at least that’s how I view someone wasting their energy to tear someone down, just plain miserable. They could be using that to do something much more productive. If only they could channel their energy towards positivity, it could make a difference in their own life as well as influence others. It’s kind of scary for the kids coming up, because even if a parent doesn’t allow their kids to have blog site access at home, they may still have access at school or other places. It’s now almost impossible to protect your kids from the vile things people say on blog sites today, and it’s even worse when kids hear hurtful things about themselves, their parents or other family members. In some cases kids have even resorted to suicide due to “cyber-bullying.”
My questions to people creating slander about people are:
What stops you from thinking twice about trying to defame someone? What are you trying to gain?Words are powerful. You could say the wrong thing about someone, famous or not, on the wrong day and that could cost them their life because they’re at a weak point. Believe it it or not, you could also be encouraging them to give up on their life or whatever the situation is, when they shouldn’t. Or what about a story that causes unnecessary drama stemming from completely false information? It’s just flat out wrong and sad. I say to myself, I thank God for making me strong, because I’ve always been able to use the negativity as motivation, and it makes me stronger.
But I don’t just think about myself in this, I think about others that I see getting thrashed and think it’s just so wrong. It’s very sad that people just want to tear people down so bad just to see them unhappy. It’s unbelievable how far people are willing to go to get people to come to their site.
I say this to say….Dear Blogger, It’s never worth it in the end when you sell your soul for a quick dollar, by creating bad stories about people. At some point, it will all reverse on you and you’ll end up regretting all the trash you wrote or said about people. The universal friend “Karma” has demonstrated this over and over again. I strongly encourage you to project more positivity into the universe. If Social Media is a world that’s growing more massive by the day, why not use it to shed light?? Otherwise, you are merely contaminating our universe. What about your family and kids?? Do you think about them?? You’re definitely creating a harmful and volatile environment where they must learn to live. It’s almost like you are cursing future generations with your bad energy.
Not to mention…Your “Personal Karma”??… Forget about it! You better start doing some serious praying and rebuking, cause only The Lord knows!…:)I sure do miss the good ol days when the focus was about the pure creativity of being an artist. Back then there was still some mystery. Social Media Is Beginning To Take Away The Specialness of What That Was, and Is.
Now, Off Blogs. Peaceful Mind. Living In My Happiness. Creativity Only.
Love, C
Ciara brings up a good point. There’s so much hate and negativity on some blogs and social media — but for what? As they say, misery loves company. Clearly people who spend their day slandering others anonymously have nothing better to do with their time nor do they seem to be happy with themselves. It’s time to leave the negativity behind us and learn to be more encouraging. You never know what someone is going through. Like Ciara stated, people have took their own lives because of what others have said. Learn to think before you say something.
Yes cici im tired of it too
I agree for the most part about the negativity, but what’s wrong with having an honest opinion? Not slandering someone’s image, but a “I think that haircut looks ugly” or something similar.
I’m certain that a good deal of people just say terrible things on the internet, but I feel as though she’s eschewing any sort of opinion that isn’t all hugs and kisses.
I dont’ think she’s focusing on how things aren’t hugs & kisses; she’s concerned with the malicious intent behind several things. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has them; but everyone doesn’t have blackened hearts. Morality & integrity is lost when someone can get away with talking shit on the net. I personally can’t recall ever going on a rant purposely against someone who I don’t support in the music industry. All I say is, I don’t like that person as a human being; so I will never support him/her/it. I don’t like Ciara & Beyonce as musicans; Beyonce as a human being. But I wouldn’t go out of my way to find a feed of either of them on a blog or on youtube & call them whorish looking mongrels who should just retire already. I just never mind them, she’s preaching the if you have nothing nice to say; dont’ say it at all. And there’s a lot of people who need to take heed to that statement, cause the pollution is getting on my nerves. That’s why I never watched the View; it’s so serious & such a debbie downer. But I can watch the Talk all day; because they are shits & giggles. If Teairra Mari came out with a new song today; I would be all for that, if Miguel dropped another song right now; I wouldn’t. That’s a justly comment with no malicious intent. But if I were to say that Teairra Mari is shitting on everyone in the music industry then follow it up with I hope some white supremacists find Miguel, drag him then hang him. That’s something that Ciara is talking about. We dont’ need all that, all we need is a yay or a nay. 😐
She never said you could not have a opinion, but simply think before you speak and actually care about hurting someone. Having a opinion and simply hurting someone because you feel you can,are to separate things. People are so quick to judge knowing their life is not a fairytale. Knowing they could be going through the same horrid situation and stiff take the opportunity to use someone else’s pain as their own step latter. Have an opinion. But just like mom says ” if you don’t have anything nice to say, then dont say anything at all”
I’m kind of a legend on youtube; cause I talk shit so well. But I never talk shit unprovoked, unless someone posts something up intensely unnecessary. Like people making top 10 videos of singles of the year. Ummm; there are already plenty of media out lets doing it, you don’t need to do it. I can understand if you’re listening to entire albums & making a list that is clearly involving more songs than singles. But I dont’ see that, I see a bunch of sheep doing the same thing that is polluting the world; a mass amount of polluting. Doing the same ole same old crap that is just excrement on top of excrement. I feel for Ciara; because she has compassion for the weak, but majority of the human race is born weak; there for, they will have a weak life. I may have had a point of vulnerability the other day because of past things clouding my mind, my little brother taking the side of a thief & my mother’s boyfriend running off at the mouth after his family done stole from mine on more than one occasion. But I’ve never had to deal with that much negativity in one day; so my adrenaline was only making me see red. But I would never take out frustrations on innocents in a negative life unless they deserve it. When I talk shit to individuals on youtube, it’s always out the kindness of my heart; because who ever taught them how the world works, needs to be shot. The whole make of how americanized people just causing nothing but trouble to the human race, is very shameful. But here’s another point of view, magazine editors & CEO’s make it seem like that only beautiful people are the ones with money who are beautiful with teams. Everyone isn’t fortunate enough to have money, nor or they lucky enough; and some of those aren’t necessarily low life dick wads that dont’ believe in self improvement. Some of those are people who try & just continuously get dealt bad cards in life; they have a true reason to be bitter & say the slander they say because that’s how the out lash with what they have been dealt. It’s not entirely right, but it can be justified; but for the hoes who run blogs with malicious intent, they are greedy folks. All they want is a pay check & if it means defaming, slandering, scrutinizing in an unjustly manner; they are going to do it & never look back. Morals are a lost thing in our society now a days on top of parents not teaching their children that if you dont’ have anything nice to say; don’t say it at all. But I know that people are always going to talk about me, even though I’m not famous; but I don’t react to that stuff, I ignore it & I don’t participate. Cause if I don’t like you, I don’t even think about you unless you’re in my immediate vicinity. But to have that kind of respect & upbringing takes a village…
a legend on youtube omfg
I agree with her, it’s unnecessary. And for the person below (prefer to keep my comment separate), my grandma always told me “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” It’s like me showing up to a place or a party that I clearly know I don’t want to. Why would I waste my time going, then complaining and or expressing my “opinion” about it. Or I never understood people going to a YouTube video, then disliking it. I just click off the video and or go to another one. Like really, what’s the point typing about something I really don’t care for.
I agree with her and you know what I really find ironic about it all is that people that leave negative comments can’t stand when people respond to them. The way ‘Freedom of Speech” works is that you have the right to say whatever you want as long as it’s not slander or libel, and the person that responds to you has the freedom to do just that…. RESPOND TO YOU. If you don’t want that kind of scenario, then why get upset when someone refutes your claim. These people feel that their negative comments are the end all/ be all when that’s not how it works in a free country. She’s also right in saying that what goes around, comes back around. People can dish it, but they sure can’t take it, even a little bit of it.
We as people think we got it all together but don’t have the least bit of an idea of what having it together really means. It’s called respect, respect for self and respect for others. You can give constructive criticism without being vile or nasty about it, it won’t hurt you to do so. Even God said that you can be angry without sinning, which means that it’s totally possible.
I don’t know what it is about celebs that have people in a bind (I’m assuming jealousy….) but people get really uptight about any and everything a celeb does, even though they have never stepped foot in that celebs shoes. You got people that haven’t taken the risk these entertainers have taken to get to where they’re at, yet got the nerve to say the things they say about them as if they can fill those shoes. Talk about hypocrisy at it’s greatest. It’s one thing to not like the work, it’s another to call these working people names like they are beneath you. I don’t care who you are, you took your path and they took theirs, and the only reason you don’t like the success they’ve garnered is because you don’t like that path you’ve taken. No need to hate because someone is where you want to be in love. Take responsibility for your own actions and stop crying and complaining.
Ciara they have to much time on there hands be write that’s why I could be famous because of jackass don’t have thing else write bout