Lesson No.3: A reconciliation must be mutual.
There’s nothing like being the only one in love in a two person relationship.
Many times people think after an issue is resolved, the relationship has been repaired. While this could be the true, it’s not always the case — especially if the decision wasn’t shared by one another. You might feel like everything is cool and the relationship is headed in the right direction but your partner might be headed in another direction — with someone else.
To make sure you both are on one accord, a reconciliation shouldn’t be done through a phone call, text message, via Twitter or Facebook. It should be done in person. That’s right, face to face. This method allows you to see their body language and hear the actual tone of their responses — listening for pauses, uncertainty and lack of emotion. You’ll also see if your partner engages in eye contact with their so-called “truthful” responses.
Then you can make a decision based on your initial feelings and those actions presented during the conversation.
If it presents itself as an unhealthy resolution, you will know saying “I want to work it out again,” isn’t a wise decision to make.